Anonymous asked: I'm glad you guys are keeping this podcast going after Matthew passed on. I used to think Soft Money was an unnecessary third wheel, but he's come into his own recently. His rapport with Serg is great. And he picked some (mostly) quality songs for the latest episode. We at the Marriott, the Marriott.
Aww, gee whiz, thanks anonymous internet denizen and Stay Hatin listener.
I think I’ve said this on the show before, but after someone passes away, you often hear their friends and family talk about doing something “because that’s what s/he would have wanted,” and I kind of always thought that was bullshit, or at least, couldn’t really reconcile the sentiment (because I’m a cold-hearted dick, but let’s leave that aside for a second).
After Matthew passed, though, and Serg told me he wanted to keep our little corner of Tumblr going, I was relieved, because sitting in my apartment in the days and weeks after the accident, I kept thinking, “We have to keep this going, or else Matthew will be disappointed,” for all the reasons that others have articulated far better than I could ever hope to.
I don’t think I’ve ever really said much “publicly” about losing Matthew, and I don’t plan to really change that because grief is fucking personal and social media is clearly not the place to share genuine human emotions, but suffice it to say that not a single day passes when I don’t think of him and get flooded with incredibly bittersweet emotions. Matthew’s passing changed the way I live my life in many ways - there’s so few people that enter your life, give more than they take, and make you want to be a nicer, better human like them, that losing a friend who does those things basically forces you to take a personal inventory. The cynicism woven in the fiber of my DNA often makes me want to just be pissed and sad about it, but there’s far better, “Matthew Approved” outlets to channel that negative energy into, like hating on creatively bankrupt rap music and sharing great music with real people you care about, which forces you to stop being that emo kid from the locker bay nearest to the art & theatre departments in high school.
Now, to the person who asked about where to start with Max B: I’m not very well-versed in his catalog, but the tumblr tag seems like a good place to start, or check this YouTube playlist.
To everyone reading this: thank you immensely for listening to our podcast, and please don’t fill our ask box with questions about “Soft Hands” Graham and reggae, though.